How to Break the Cycle of Conflict Using the Betari Box

It's easy to get irritable or defensive when a co-worker questions your judgment.

Unfortunately, this reaction can make your colleague respect you even less. She assumes that you've got something to hide, so she laughs at your next idea.

All you can expect from such a difficult person is rudeness and negativity, so you stop talking to her.

But that tells her that she was right all along - you're a loser, and passive-aggressive too!

Before you know what's happening, you're in a cycle of conflict with your co-worker and you can't see a way out.

It's time to use the Betari Box to break the vicious cycle.

This model helps us to understand the impact that our own attitudes and behaviors have on the attitudes and behaviors of the people around us.

Take an honest look at yourself and consider what you're doing and why. How are you affecting your colleague? What could you do differently?


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